“To every person there comes in their lifetime that special moment when you are figuratively tapped on the shoulder and offered the chance to do a very special thing, unique to you and your talents. What a tragedy if that moment finds you unprepared or unqualified for work which could have been your finest hour.” – Winston Churchill
We all have something(s) that we’re good at; our areas of strength. Things that seem to come so easily and naturally to us – Our “Talents.” It might be music (you love singing or playing instruments), or IT related stuff. You might love inspiring and motivating people to perform at their peak, or just love talking to crowds. You might have a profound love for reading, be a genius at learning new softwares, or love taking pictures; the list is endless!
This is one from Dr. Myles Munroe – my greatest role model of all times. I would like to tell you all about him, but I’d spend pages. Just google him! I’ve watched this a couple of times and it’s consistently jolted me into the “Greatness zone” each time..It’s caused a huge paradigm shift in me. I’m sure you’ll find it beneficial, too…Trust me!!
We all know the huge role effective relationships play in ensuring our success in life. As we also know, every now and then, we either say the wrong stuff, or we do the wrong things. It’s almost as certain as the four seasons that at some point, we’ll do something that has the potential of jeopardizing our relationships…You know what I’m talking about don’t you? You probably already did! If you haven’t, chances are very high that you will very soon… We just can’t avoid the every-now-and-then frictions in our relationships; it’s almost like a natural law.
So since we’re very certain that we’ll mess up at some point in our relationships, how do we go about fixing it? Isn’t that a question worth answering? Well, here’s the answer: We apologize…DUH!! But here’s another question: how in the world do we do that?
Marshall Goldsmith – a best-selling author, professor, executive educator and coach – in his book, What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, said something I thought was very practical. So, I’ve decided to share it with you. “Once you’re prepared to apologize,” he said, “here’s the instruction manual: You say, “I’m sorry.” You add, “I’ll try to do better in the future.” And then…you say nothing!…Don’t explain it. Don’t complicate it. Don’t qualify it. You only risk saying something that will dilute it.”
See? It’s that simple! You should try it sometime! Marshall also added, “It costs you nothing – not even your illusory pride – but the return on investment would make Warren Buffet green with envy. And it will change your life, as if by magic.” I don’t think I can put it in any simpler terms.
If you’d spend the next 7 minutes watching this video, I guarantee you that you’d leave this page wiser than you were when you stopped by! It’s by one of my favorite speakers, Jim Rhon. He mentored the great Tony…
OK…So I’ve been thinking and pondering on a subject to write about today. And after the hours, I got nothing! However, I promised myself I’d try my possible best to post something every single day. Unless I REALLY get caught up in my days work and can’t afford the extra time to write. So here I am, keeping a little promise to myself.
But here’s something to think about: what promise did you make to yourself but have repeatedly broken?
You can’t get anywhere without being consistent! You have to be consistent, even when it’s inconvenient. Think about it…
Growing up, we had this poster in our living room. It had the portrait of a pretty lady smiling, with these words printed beneath her…
“Just a smile. A smile does not cost anything but achieves a lot. It is pleasing to those who receive it and harmless to those who give it. Though it is short lived, it’s memory is for a long time!”
As kids, while we played in the living room, we unconsciously had these words inscribed in our hearts. I wrote that from memory by the way…:-D
Smiling when you’re expected to be pissed is not a sign of weakness. It’s a certain kind of strength. It’s the kind of strength that tells whoever or whatever is pissing you off that you’re confident about what you COULD do, but you’ve just CHOSEN not to react! Smiling makes you appear friendly and very likable! And most times, you really don’t realize how many people you encouraged and helped have a great day…just by smiling! Also, it’s been scientifically proven that smiling a lot increases our tendencies of living longer. So what the heck! Just smile! Besides, it costs you nothing…:-D
“The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking spaces.” – Will Rogers
We go to school, get a degree, and look for some job – even if it’s not one we really enjoy. We make a few bucks every month. Pay our numerous bills and if we’ve got a little change left in our pockets, thank goodness! Isn’t this a classic case? What happened to our childhood dreams? What happened to, “I’ll keep the job for a while and save up to start my own stuff?” When asked this, a lot of people say, “Life happened!” Not so true!
We all have dreams. Things we’d love to do ALL our lives. I believe we’re supposed to live everyday working towards achieving those dreams. Maybe slowly, but steadily! Honestly ask yourself…”I’m I doing what I really love doing?” If you’re not, then please don’t get comfortable. Don’t quit on the way to your dreams! Don’t let ” job security” stop you from living your dreams…Don’t stop driving. Don’t stop trying to fulfill that desire you have! Lose the justification for forgetting your real passion already!
Earl Shoaff, an entrepreneur and self-made millionaire, sharing one of his secrets to success said, “Work part time on your dreams, while working full time on your job.” I believe this is the key! Keep working on that dream. Don’t let your job be an excuse. Don’t settle for anything less than your dreams! Don’t park until you get there!
You’ve probably heard the saying “Action speaks louder than words.” It was almost impossible forgetting it when I was a kid, since people always reminded me of it right after paying me back for something bad I did to them. But it really is the key to our growth in life: Taking action! We can make plans all we want and read books all we want. But if we don’t take any action, everything will be wasted!
Shut your eyes and envision your greatness. Visualize the fame, wealth, awesome relationships, expensive retreats and vacations, donations to charity, fulfillment of your wants and needs, and all that good stuff. Once you open your eyes, your back to reality. You’re back to the realization of the fact that you’re starring at your screen reading this crap! But the good news is, there’s something that can merge your fantasies and dreams with your reality: your ACTIONS!
It’s pretty easy to determine where you’ll end up in life: just watch the actions you’re taking today. They things you DO determine where you’ll end up, not your plans! So quit planning already and start doing. Don’t say you’ll be great one day, take action! Start doing something today that will get you where you want to be in 5, 10, to 15 years. Read the books, take the classes, take the exams, whatever it takes! Just quit planning and start DOING!
Again, I plan on keeping this one very brief. I’ll do my best to drive the point home as quickly as possible.
We all fall into this trap: we get angry and then blame someone else for it. We blame others for driving us nuts… But in the real sense of it, we call the shots! We choose to get mad at the things people do. We’ve got to face the fact that there are some people who believe their life’s mission is to make us mad. And they live everyday trying to fulfill this mission with so much passion. The truth is, we can’t change these people and we shouldn’t worry about trying to. It’s just like trying to change the seasons! Working so hard to make summer come after fall instead of spring. That’s not a smart way to spend our days!
So, instead of trying to change the people or the things that drive us crazy, let us devote that energy to choosing not to be driven crazy! Here’s how I’ve learned to look at it: imagine life’s a movie. So, the person pissing you off is just playing out their own script. All you need to do is stay in character play out your own script. A script written for a proactive character, not a reactive one. Don’t get mad just because someone’s poking you. That just shows they’re in control of your life. You take control! You decide not to get pissed off! That’s what leaders do…
“Don’t start your day until you have it finished.” – Jim Rhon
It’s very important for us to plan our days before setting out into them. This applies to everybody: students, white collar workers, blue collar workers. If we really want to achieve greatness, then we must learn how to set daily goals for ourselves.
We achieve a whole lot more when we clearly stipulate the things we want to get done in a day. It enables us to focus on the things that really matter. I learned this a while back and I’ve been doing it ever since then. The difference it’s made has been glaring. I’m more productive now than I used to be! I’ve also shared this with a bunch of people I mentor and the results have been astonishing!
It’s really common sense right? When you determine the things you want to get done in a day, write them down, and actually go ahead to do those things, you get a whole lot more done! And that’s just how simple it is! If you want to become great, then you MUST learn how to make your days matter. And if you want to make your days matter, you MUST learn how to set daily goals. There are no two ways about it!