Lately, I’ve been so engrossed in the impact of relationships to our success in life. And how real success is attained only when we have our family and friends around to celebrate with. This seems paradoxical because nearly every successful – world class top performer – I’ve heard or read about has had at least one divorce. At some point, it seemed like neglecting relationships is the sine qua non for exceptional success! It’s not so difficult to understand why, since you need all the time you’ve got to immerse yourself in your work to get to the top! But if you agree with me that we need our loved ones to be truly successful, then read on!!
“Of all the attitudes we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.” – Zig Ziglar
I can’t explain how it works, but we’re all prone to it: We’ll ALWAYS give more sacrificially to the ones that show appreciation to us. It might be a small favor we did, or perhaps a huge one. But regardless, we all have a bigger heart for the people that come back to say, “Thank you.” Even God! He gives more to the ones that remember to say, “Thank you.”
I’ve become an unrepentant fanatical believer in the power of showing appreciation; I’ve made it a vital part of my life. Here’s a secret I’ve learned: though people almost always say, “Oh it was a pleasure,” or, “Don’t mention it,” or better still, “You’re so welcome,” very casually (as if they could care less about it), they take note of the fact that you even bothered to thank them.
Growing up, we had this poster in our living room. It had the portrait of a pretty lady smiling, with these words printed beneath her…
“Just a smile. A smile does not cost anything but achieves a lot. It is pleasing to those who receive it and harmless to those who give it. Though it is short lived, it’s memory is for a long time!”
As kids, while we played in the living room, we unconsciously had these words inscribed in our hearts. I wrote that from memory by the way…:-D
Smiling when you’re expected to be pissed is not a sign of weakness. It’s a certain kind of strength. It’s the kind of strength that tells whoever or whatever is pissing you off that you’re confident about what you COULD do, but you’ve just CHOSEN not to react! Smiling makes you appear friendly and very likable! And most times, you really don’t realize how many people you encouraged and helped have a great day…just by smiling! Also, it’s been scientifically proven that smiling a lot increases our tendencies of living longer. So what the heck! Just smile! Besides, it costs you nothing…:-D
“This art of resting the mind and the power of dismissing from it all care and worry is probably one of the secrets of energy in our great men” – Captain J. A. Hadfield
It’s true we’re supposed to set goals for ourselves, and live everyday trying to achieve them, but becoming obsessed with success is probably the most unhealthy habit ever! In our quest for greatness, we tend to be so focused on the goal that we forget about ourselves. We forget to take care of ourselves. We forget to eat right, sleep right, and make a little time to just seat back and relax.
“Stay away from a foolish man, for you will not find knowledge on his lips” – Proverbs 14:7 (NIV) It’s very crucial to our success in life that we sit back every now and then to evaluate our relationships. The…